Because It’s a Balancing Act?

16 Jan

I get asked a lot how I keep myself in check. How I manage to do all this ‘stuff’ I do, and not pull my hair out and fall apart, or you know, faint. I guess I’m suppose to tell you all how it is that you can balance writing,running a blog, critiquing others manuscripts, being in school, having a social life, playing a sport, playing music, writing music, reading, writing reviews on what you’re reading, doing art, and selling said art. But, honestly I can’t tell YOU how to do all that.

I can only tell you that I do, and it’s not without effort, or struggle, or sometimes collapsing on my bed, and wondering why I even bother because there is no possible way that I can accomplish it all without screaming.

Sometimes I DO scream…

Life in general is a balancing act. everyone has things to balance. Their work, kids, school, training their dog, running marathons. And everyone manages to do it in a different way.

WE ALL BALANCE DIFFERENT THINGS.

WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT.

I for instance am an insane procrastinator, so I know I have to get things done early, shut down my internet, smile, grin and bear it until I’m done. Other people (who are not cursed with procrastination) don’t have to do those things.

The thing is that we all need to prioritize. Realizing what is most important and divvying out your time accordingly. You need to understand that YOU CAN”T DO EVERYTHING. I have a problem with this as you can see from the above list of things I do. But, if you can believe it, I actually have rounded myself in by cutting out DeviantArt, a personal (non-writing) blog,photo a day photography challenge, and peer tutoring. Unfortunately I still have a lot to do.

So being honest with yourself is a big thing. Can you really make time to do all these things? Can you really manage another beta partner right now?Will adding another blog on WordPress really help you reach your goals? Will it make you a better person? Will it change you for the better? Will it change others?

Now, if you are being honest with yourself, and you know all the things you simply can not do without and have accepted that you can’t do it all then it’s time to look at how wisely your spending your time now.

Browsing the net for an hour is fun, sure. But is it helping you do any of those things?

ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME?

And I guess that is the whole point of this post. Don’t waste your time. You only have so much of it. In fact it’s the only thing you can’t get more of. EVER. So ask yourself this:

Is your balancing act really a balancing act? Or, are you forcing it to be one? Are you stealing half-hours to catch the end of that re-run of Burn Notice instead of writing/exercising/ playing piano/etc.?

My life isn’t a balancing act.

I make it one.

You make your life one.

Drop what you can, but ask yourself do you have to?

 

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4 Responses to “Because It’s a Balancing Act?”

  1. juanvillagrana February 3, 2012 at 12:38 am #

    Ah!!! I’m a huge procrastinator myself, and I don’t even have to juggle all this stuff around! I think my brain broke reading your hectic schedule, lol.
    But the way you manage this is inspiring, so thanks for this post.
    Good luck!
    =)

    • nkeda14 February 12, 2012 at 3:46 pm #

      Good to see you again Juan! Us Procrastinators do have to stick together, and I’m sure you get a great deal done in your own time!

  2. Haley Whitehall (@HaleyWhitehall) February 20, 2012 at 4:43 pm #

    Hi Ally! I bet you have forgotten about me. This is a great post. I’m slowly learning how to balance everything again. I’ve been in my writing/editing cave for months after giving up on being productive while multi-tasking. I did get my debut novel finished so the time spent was worth while.

    • nkeda14 February 20, 2012 at 10:04 pm #

      I couldn’t forget about you Haley! Glad you like the post, and even happier that your back to socializing with your writing buddies!

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